Sexologist Debunks Top Sex Myth, Warns Against Use of ‘Extra Time’ Condoms

Top Sex Myth Debunked: Expert Warns Against Misconceptions Fueled by Porn and Numbing Condoms.

Sexual health myths are widespread and often lead to unrealistic expectations and performance anxiety. In the June 26 episode of Figuring Out With Raj Shamani, Dr. Sankalp Kumar Jain—certified sexologist and founder of AskDrJain, Arunveda, ErectiCare Pro, and Fertimacy—addressed some of the most harmful beliefs people hold about sex, particularly in India.

The Most Destructive Myth About Sex
When asked about the most damaging sex-related myth, Dr. Jain pointed to one rooted in the influence of pornography: “That people can have sex continuously for 30 minutes or longer, like in porn videos. What most don’t realize is that porn actors often inject their penises with papaverine, a drug that artificially maintains erections for extended periods. This is neither natural nor safe.”

He also cautioned against so-called “extra time” condoms that contain numbing agents: “These condoms include anesthetic lubricants that dull sensation, making it seem like you’re lasting longer—but they can harm your natural response and numb your organ unnecessarily.”

What Is the Average Duration of ‘Good Sex’?
Dr. Jain explained that the perception of long-lasting sex is misleading. “A healthy duration of penetrative sex typically lasts around 15 to 20 minutes, which includes approximately 40 to 50 strokes,” he said. He also broke down the sexual experience into three phases: foreplay, roleplay, and rounds, emphasizing that emotional and physical connection matters more than duration alone.

Focus on Sexual Wellness
In a 2023 interview with HT Lifestyle, Dr. Ritu Hinduja, fertility consultant at Nova IVF Fertility, stressed the importance of taking ownership of your sexual health. She recommended open communication with partners, understanding your body, and prioritizing safe sex practices—regardless of the number of partners or length of relationship.