Women and Intimacy After 60: New Study Shows Sexuality Continues to Evolve

Sex After 60 for Women Is Thriving: New Study Reveals Evolving Trends.

When it comes to sex toys, few of us immediately think of the elderly, particularly women. Yet, a peer-reviewed study published in Menopause, the official journal of The Menopause Society, reveals that women over 60 are using them more than ever—and not just casually.

The first-of-its-kind study analyzed data from over 3,000 women aged 60 and above in the United States. The key finding: solo sex and sex-toy use are far more common—and beneficial—than most people assume.

Why Older Women Are Embracing Sex Toys

In recent years, research has highlighted a growing use of sex toys among younger women, driven by greater awareness and reduced stigma. However, sexuality in older adults—especially solo pleasure—has largely been ignored. This study shines a light on an overlooked demographic.

1. Changing life circumstances
More older women are living alone—post-divorce, after losing a partner, or simply by choice. Independent living gives them greater agency over their own pleasure.

2. Physical changes post-menopause
Vaginal dryness and hormonal changes can make penetrative sex painful. Coupled with erectile difficulties in older male partners, many are turning to vibrators, external stimulation, and non-penetrative toys.

3. A growing market tailored to them
Sex-toy companies are increasingly designing products for older adults, including items aimed specifically at menopausal women. As stigma fades, availability and acceptance grow.

Key Findings from the Study

Among the 3,000+ women surveyed:

Sex toys were used far more during masturbation than during partnered sex.

Women who “always” or “almost always” used sex toys during masturbation were significantly more likely to reach orgasm.

Over one-third (38.7%) used sex toys during partnered sex at least occasionally.

External vibrators and dildo-style penetrative toys were the most popular.

In short: sexual pleasure doesn’t stop at 60. It’s becoming more intentional, informed, and supported by technology.

A Surprising Link to Cognitive Health

Emerging evidence suggests that masturbation in older adults may support cognitive function, particularly word recall. While not a cure-all, it highlights the connection between sexual wellness and overall wellbeing.

Breaking the Silence in Healthcare

Dr. Monica Christmas of The Menopause Society emphasizes how little women know about their own anatomy and orgasm patterns later in life.

Many women mistakenly believe something is “wrong” if they can’t orgasm through penetration, when most women don’t.

Factual guidance from healthcare professionals can dramatically improve sexual wellbeing.

Routine checkups should include conversations around sexuality, not just for younger adults but for older women too.

Sexual pleasure also provides emotional benefits, boosting mood, reducing stress, enhancing intimacy, and contributing to quality of life.

What Needs to Change

Society’s conversation around sexuality after 60 must evolve. Older adults aren’t just maintaining their sexuality—they’re reinventing it. This study is a crucial step toward normalizing pleasure across all ages.